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Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If You Are In High School – Tips For Teenagers

High School - A Place Where Hearts Get Broken.

High School – A Place Where Hearts Get Broken.

If you are in high school and you ask someone how to get your ex girlfriend back, they will probably tell you that you are too young to understand love and you should learn to move on. They will tell you that you are a teenager and there is a lot you need to experience before you can find the person you want to spend your life with.

Well, they are probably right, but that does not make your feelings for your ex girlfriend any less intense. That does not really make you feel any better about the fact that your ex girlfriend is no longer with you. In this guide, I will give you a few tips that are going to help you get her back even though you are in high school.

A Complete Step By Step Plan

Before we begin, I want you to read this article on how to win your ex girlfriend back, which is a complete step by step guide with everything you need to know about the subject. This guide is probably the most detailed and comprehensive FREE guide on the Internet. I will give you some great tips in this article, but for a complete step by step guide, read this article.

 Why Your Ex Girlfriend Broke Up With You

You and your ex were having a great time together. She was amazing and you were madly in love. You thought she will always be yours and nothing will ever be able to separate you two. But suddenly, things started to fall apart. She broke up with you for some reason. Whatever the reason was, it shattered your dream of having the perfect relationship with this girl. You were supposed to be together forever but now she seems to be moving on. (Note: If you broke up with her, read How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back If YOU Broke Up With Her)

You can’t imagine her with someone else. You still love her from all your heart and you will do anything to have her back. You can’t concentrate on anything because all you do is think about her. Whenever you see her, you get this feeling in your stomach that makes you feel like you can’t live without her.

high_School_gossipOK Romeo, here is the fact. Even though this pain might feel like love, it’s actually just a normal reaction to breakup. This is how our brains and our body react to losing someone special to us. Your ex girlfriend was special to you, no doubt about that. But it does not necessarily mean she was right for you.

The fact is she broke up, and she is still young. She is going to date other guys. And that’s OK. The truth is, people hardly ever end up with the one they date in high school. I know there are a lot of cases of high school sweethearts ending up getting married. But those are rare. And you have to accept that reality.

That being said, there is a chance that you will get her back and become one of those rare high school sweethearts.

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back in High School.

The basic principles of getting her back are the same as mentioned in the main guide to win your ex girlfriend back. However, since you are in high school, you will face a little difficulty during the no contact period(Step 2 of the guide). Here are a few tips to consider that will increase your chances.

1. If you are in the same class, apply the no contact rule as stated in the guide. Do not talk to her unless it’s absolutely necessary. Even if she comes to talk to you, stay calm and treat her like she is an acquaintance you are in good terms with.

2. Concentrate on yourself and do things that you enjoy. Participate in extra curricular activities and meet new girls. Start hanging out with more girls and make friends with them. Your ex will soon find out that you are making new friends and will probably get jealous.

3. Remember to not do anything that might show your ex that you are still obsessed about her and want to be with her. Read the first step of this article for more details on this.

4. If you and your ex have common friends, it’s time to stay away from them for a while. It might be hard, but you can always make new friends and find new people to hang out with. I am not saying you should break friendship with them, all I am saying that you should stay away till the time you are comfortable talking about your ex and hanging out with her. (Till no contact period ends)

5.Do not participate in the high school gossip. People will talk about you two breaking up. Don’t let it affect you and don’t participate in the discussion.

The key to getting her back, even in high school is to focus on yourself. The basics of attraction remain the same no matter if you are teenager or in your fifties. If you work on yourself and become a confident and attractive person, a person who is happy with himself, she will come back to you.  Again, read this article, for more detailed step by step guide to win her back.

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  • vincent February 24, 2014, 4:31 am

    Hey, I need help badly

    I’ve read the how to get your girlfriend back, how to get your girlfriend back if she has a boyfriend, and the one for being in high school
    But my situation is quite a bit different, here’s how.
    me and my girlfriend were together for 4 1/2 months. It was a great relationship and we both loved each other very much. When she left me I didn’t do the “no contact” thing until she blocked me on Facebook. After a week I tried talking to her but she only said we could be friends. I of course messed it up, and she said I had to move on and that I wouldn’t want her anymore. I told her I still wanted her more than anything. And she wouldn’t hear it. After a few weeks of forced no contact she got with someone else. I found out because I saw them holding hands. I tried talking to her in a more understandable tone because I had already wrote her a letter for wanting to win her back before she got with the other Guy. But then she completely cut contact with me and we haven’t spoken since. About 3 weeks ago that happened and since then, I’ve been trying to figure out who he is and what they’re like together. I found out he was her ex boyfriend from freshman year and they broke because he had to move. He was apparantly her first love.

    I am at the point where I think its hopeless. Have I messed up too much? Or is there still a chance I can have her back?

    • Kevin March 3, 2014, 2:09 pm

      Well, you never really applied no contact for a full month, so I’ll say there is still a chance. I’ll recommend you start no contact starting now till the end of March and don’t try to figure out what she is doing or about her new relationship. Then contact her after that. If at that time, her reactions are the same, then it’s time to move on.

  • Danny March 18, 2014, 12:25 am

    Hey
    so me and my ex girlfriend broke up because I didn’t trust her and she’s seeing someone else
    what do I do and do I have a chance at getting her back

    • Kevin March 18, 2014, 7:11 pm
      • Danny March 19, 2014, 1:26 am

        Well…I did read it,but I’m already doing the no-contact rule
        do I still have a chance though???

        • Kevin March 24, 2014, 5:45 pm

          Yes, you do.

      • brandon April 28, 2014, 3:06 am

        Look I need help me and my ex broke up we been together for a year and 2 months … She broke up with me Cuz she thought I cheated we broke up for 2 weeks and 5 days but I wrote her letter saying the truth and no I didnt cheat that’s a waste of my time then we got back for 3 days or so then she said she was confused Cuz she started talking to this other guy when we had broke up now shes with him and idk what to do can u help me with this ?

        • Kevin April 30, 2014, 7:53 am

          Whatever you do, don’t act needy at this point. If she chooses the other guy, just accept her decision and apply no contact.

  • Danny March 24, 2014, 11:32 pm

    Thank You…and it’s working to
    thank you so much…I appreciate it

    • Kevin March 28, 2014, 6:39 pm

      You’re welcome Danny.

  • evan March 25, 2014, 8:07 pm

    could you help me lol so me and my gf went out for 6 months and it was great but one day she broke up with me then a week later she begged for me to take her back. i did and then a rumor that i cheated on her spread through our school btw im a sophmore and she broke up with me again and say a month went by and this girl asked me out and i wanted to call and ask if there was anything still between us and i did and she already had another boyfriend it tore me apart but say another month went by and i wasnt happy and i tried to get back with her and she said that she was with someone else and that she was sorry and i fucked up lol i went slightly crazy i didnt beg but i was very persistent and she cried and stuff then asked me to leave her alone and i did and i still want to be with her and idk what to do its been a few days since then…do i still have a chance with her and shes been with him for idk 25 days.

    • Kevin March 28, 2014, 7:30 pm

      Yes, you do. Follow the advise in the article.

      • evan March 31, 2014, 5:13 pm

        should i do it before summer in 6 weeks or wait till next year? because the no contact period wont quite fit in i dont think

  • lewis March 29, 2014, 12:54 am

    Well me and my ex was together for about a year, we met through a panto we did not Christmas gone but the Christmas before, I practically lived at hers, we did everything together, we was the “perfect couple, after we broke up we still met for abit until we both went on holiday in the summer and both went our separate ways, she has been seeing more lads since me and I have seen some girls but none have worked out, her mum doesn’t exactly think the best of me because whenever she messed up she Blaim it on me to her mum,none of her friends like me and that was partly why we broke up, about a month ago we argued and we didn’t speak until the other week we arranged to meet, I went hers and then we went cinema, we ended up kissing and then we spoke about were we went wrong, we laughed and she kept wanting to go through my messages so I let her, on the way home her mum said “see you again” wich is a good sign, what do I do from now on, not got a clue what to do…?

    • Kevin March 31, 2014, 7:47 pm

      Contact her again in a week.

  • D/S April 3, 2014, 8:38 am

    hey Kevin,
    So me and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years broke up 2 months ago after we had a argument and I lost my temper. She got with her lyk guy best friendtwo weeks after we broke up.
    So I have read your guide and have applied no contact for over a month. S She then talked to me saying t was to hard us not talking and wants to still be friends, so naturally I agreed and we are lyk the best friends we were when we went out. While we were hanging out I totally broke down crying and told her I still loved her and blah blah blah… but thing is she told me she still loves me too. So we spent over and hour just talking and she said that she would go back to me if she could, but she doesn’t wanna brak her new bf* heart. I told her that I am willing to wait for her. Just this week we were talking at our usual meeting spot and after awhile the conversation lead back towards us. She told me how she wants to be with me again but cos of her new boyfriend we cant (she also stated “It would be so much better if he broke up with me”)
    SO Kevin I know she still has feelings for me, so what do I do? Do I remain her friend and just wait for her, Go no contact again and make her want me back in her life or What?

    • Kevin April 3, 2014, 4:20 pm

      Remain friends for a month (or two) and keep having fun with her. Don’t push her into breaking up with him. Let it be her idea. If she doesn’t break up in two months, then tell her that you need commitment from her or you will move on. If she chooses the other guy, then you should move on.

  • Michael April 21, 2014, 2:58 pm

    Hey it’s me Michael I don’t know if you got my other comment but anyways my girlfriend broke up with me (we were dating for a month now almost two months)and I was to sad to ask why she broke up with mei just walked away,but other people tell me because she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship others say I bored her I just don’t know what to believe. So our relationship started off wired we just saw each other and liked each other but we didn’t know at first till I asked her if she liked me she said yes and I was happy so we talked but not a lot we didn’t really get to be friends at all or get to know each other so much instead we Just stared dating fast and I think that’s what made the relationship akward because we didn’t know so much about each other but we still talked and did everthing a normal couple would do but now I it’s over.
    But anyways This what I was thinking of, I already let a whole week pass with out talking so now when we go back to school I was thinking of telling her if she what’s to start over fresh and when I mean fresh I mean like what if started the right way as friends instead of just going out agian without know to much about each other the way we did when we first met so is this a good idea or not? Please answer this question on this website cause I can’t get In my email

    • Kevin April 29, 2014, 6:58 pm

      Hey Michael,

      Don’t tell her to start over fresh, it will make your intentions to get back clear and she will put up a wall. Instead, just start treating her as a friend. Read this guide and follow it.

  • Jacob April 30, 2014, 11:10 am

    Hey man this is a great guide but I have some flaws we just fell for each other and were in love for a month I messed up quite a lot and had bad reactions and got jelaious she still loves me but it’s defiantly friend zone. Even though we made mad love she had a boy friend before me 4 years actually.. That up side to this is he was an asshole an they broke up 4 times and she back with him now. She just fell back in love with him and after prom we got into a argument so she was pissed all of the next day we texted I said sorry and it almost got better but then I told her to make a decision and later that night she said she was better off with bad boyfriend, and told me I’m sorry you couldn’t make me feel as happy as Austen, I know my Flaws and know exacly what do to if I date her again but getting her back is gonna be immposible i FaceTimed her and she and we were talking well and her eat friend just dissed her because she’s back with bad boyfriend so I’m not the only one who is mad about it, the pros of this is he’s an asshole but makes her feel a certain way that I couldn’t and I asked her how long do you all plan to be together and she said footer ever I was pissed and ignoring her I feel like will make her just forget and not have any feelings at all and honestly I was a rebound that had a good chance and Meased it up please help…

    • Kevin May 1, 2014, 1:05 pm

      Hey Jacob,

      I don’t think your flaws had anything to do with her breaking up with you. I think she never got over her ex and you were probably a rebound. I’ll recommend you don’t waste any more time with her and try to move on.

  • Adam May 4, 2014, 5:43 pm

    Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 9 months just broke up a week ago. I messed up and begged and pleaded for her back for like 3 days then I stopped talking to her less and less and today I heard she lied to me in our relationship about something so I asked her about it and she got so mad that I would even think to believe that and she said she misses the old me, I know she loves me a lot still and isn’t looking for another relationship soon and I also love her so much all I want is her back i am trying to use no contact rule but I don’t want her to think I don’t care anymore because that is some of why she broke up with me.. She has been talking to her guy friends a lot also after the break up What should I do? (I am really close with her family)

    • Kevin May 7, 2014, 7:14 am

      You can just tell her you need some space and time to deal with the breakup. This way, she will know you still care.

  • Trent May 7, 2014, 4:25 am

    so um me and my girlfriend went out for 7 months but around the 4th month i started to get jealous of this other guy she talked to we worked it out for a while but after a while it became a problem of jealousy for not only me but her to and for a little while i ended up giving her the cold shoulder and she broke up with me yesterday after I walked out on her i told her i still loved her and she told me she still loved me but today i couldnt resist the urge and I told her that i couldnt stop thinking about her but im afraid she might go out with another guy what should I do?

    • Trent May 7, 2014, 4:27 am

      btw i agreed to being friends with her right after she broke up with me do you think i still have a chance?

    • Kevin May 7, 2014, 8:06 am

      You should follow the advice in the article.

  • Matt May 10, 2014, 10:18 pm

    Alright I need help. Me and my girlfriend were together for a year and a half. She broke up with me last week out of the blue “I’m done”. “Too stressfull”. “I’m better off by myself”. I haven’t really done the no contact until today because we’ve broken up for similar reasons in the past and I’ve always gotten her back a day or 2 later by telling her how much I love her/care for her. This time it’s worse because she won’t hear any of that and won’t talk to me at all pretty much. I’ve tried calling and texting her and I get nothing. She blocked me on Facebook today for messaging her I’m assuming. What do I do to get her back fast? Summer is coming up and I won’t see her much if I don’t get her back. Last day of school is May 29th. Help please!!

    • Matt May 10, 2014, 10:20 pm

      Also part of my other comment… She still parks next to me in the mornings before school. Is this a good sign???

      • Kevin May 15, 2014, 5:09 pm

        Not necessarily.

    • Kevin May 15, 2014, 5:09 pm

      Don’t try to rush things. Apply no contact. Follow the advice in the article.

  • Mumu May 14, 2014, 1:32 pm

    Hi there my name is Mumu and I need your help, me and my girlfriend were together for almost a year,6months together and about 6months long distance ,she wanted to see me every two months in that long distance relationship and I even flew her once but I couldn’t able to do it when she had her next vacation ,and then she cheated on me ,although she was honest and told me everything, she told me that she was lonely and she was was just using the other guy just to fulfill her emotional needs and she was very sorry and won’t do it, but that never ended right there, she started liking Him and now loving him and now pretty much he replaced me, all this time she told me she don’t know what she is doing and she doesn’t know what to do, she tried to broke up with me but we still haven’t there is still strings attached , but she is ignoring me and not asking me questions like she used to,but I am sure she still love me and I forgave her then and I will forgive her now ,cause it’s not just Her fault.

    • Kevin May 15, 2014, 5:46 pm

      Hey,

      It is her fault. Whatever her reason for cheating was, she still made a decision to cheat. And it was the wrong thing to do.

  • Adrian May 18, 2014, 4:55 pm

    My name is Adrian and me and my girlfriend were together for a year. I made a mistake of trying to take a break from her for too long, I ended up not talking to her for a month and when I came back she told me we were over and she doesn’t love me anymore. I already messed up on your steps of no contact. I’ve begged her and written her poems of how much I loved her and as you said. It made things worse. She said there’s already somebody else special that she’s met. She posts how she’s so excited to see this guy on Facebook. Even if she no longer loves me and that she may be falling for another guy. Is there still a chance?

    • Kevin May 21, 2014, 6:40 pm

      Yes, follow the advice in the article.

  • santos May 22, 2014, 4:32 pm

    Hay Kevin I was dating this girl for a year and 8months we were best friends ever since 8grade we would always argue but we would make up and work harder on whatever we needed to fix I had some anger problems so it add in on the fighting we broke up and a couple days later she like a guy so quick that she would talk to after we fight but he don’t like her I’m trying so hard I know everyone might think love for us is not real but it is please …help me I don’t wana lose my best friend

    • Kevin May 23, 2014, 5:54 pm

      Follow the advice in the article Santos.

  • Jose June 4, 2014, 6:16 am

    so I’ve been dating this girl for about 2 months in high school and we recently broke up. The first month she wasn’t into holding hands, talking deep or anything sentimental which gave me the mentality not to do anything even though she said she wasn’t like that anymore. I told her I don’t really feel like we’re in a relationship all we do is talk like friends. I’m graduating but she isn’t and she’s going away for 5 weeks so she decided to end it. how do I get her back with her making the initial contact?

    • Kevin June 4, 2014, 8:27 pm

      You can’t make her make the initial contact. You should make the contact after NC if you want her back.

  • Dylan June 5, 2014, 3:41 am

    Hey Kevin,
    So me and my ex broke up a couple of months ago we were together for about three and 1/2 months and I did the no contact thing but only for about three weeks we talked on the phone then and she brought up being friends cuz we were friends before the relationship and I wanted to stay either since she broke up with me but I just stuck it out as a friend trying to do what I did before but it doesn’t seem to be working and lately she’s been fussing with me for no reason at all. Is there any advise u can give me to get her back.

  • James June 5, 2014, 6:02 am

    I need help…
    So my girlfriend and i went out for six months and then we broke up. But we kept on talking and kept on having sex until one day she just ended it. We kept on talking off and on and one night we got in a fight and just ended it. Then the next night she texted me asking if we could talk again and I said yes. But that same night I was asked to go to a Sounders game with one of her girlfriends who I have been very close since before my exgirlfriend and I started dating. (Nothing ever occurred between us) So I go to the Sounders game and the next Monday rolls around and after school I returned something to her that she left at my house and we talked for a bit and I apologized because she claimed to be very hurt even though she knew that her friend and I have always been close. So I then asked if her if we could still have that talk and the next day we did and ended up having sex. (On Tuesday) So then we hang out on Thursday and it’s like everything is back to normal even though she says that we still aren’t together. Then later that night she texts me and says that she talked with her best friend and decided that she needed time to think so I left her alone. Then the next night she gets drunk and makes out with one of my friends and I then find out that she had done it before also the night before I went to the Sounders game with the same guy. She says that she feels bad but at the same time we weren’t together so I cant be mad. THEN the Saturday night we’re at a party and I end up staying the night st her house and we have sex and the next morning I go home being told that she will come over later so that we can talk but she just blows me off and I leave her several texts and about five calls trying to figure out whats going on. The next day I don’t contact her until I remember she leaves for a trip the next day and so I ask to see her but she is with her friends and is too busy to see me. So she is gone four days and Saturday, the day after she got back, she texts me and we talk for a while and later that night I go to a party and get drunk and fucking text her saying that I miss her and she doesnt respond. Later on when I’ve sobered up some I text her and apologize and around 12:30 in the morning she texts me and bitches me out but then asks me if she can see me so I say sure and she picks me up and we hang out for a while. The next day she texts me and we talk for a while without mentioning our relationship once. The next day we hang out after school and talk a little about our relationship but I have to leave for basketball so we can’t finish it. The next day I text her asking if we can finish our talk the next day but her phone breaks so she can’t reply (it actually did break she showed it to me. It was fucking wrecked) but she is hanging out with one of her friends so I text them asking them to ask my ex if she wants to have breakfest and they say “no she’s busy” so I respond and I’m polite about it and say “thank you for asking I appreciate it” and so later that night she texts me on her mom’s phone and we talk for a bit and make a joke about us hanging out and she says that it always turns into sex and I say since we’ve stopped dating I haven’t forced anything upon you and the day before when I started to try something and she rejected me I was respectful of that and stopped. Then she went on to say that I send her too many texts when I literally do not at all and the last thing time I had done that was that Sunday after we had sex. I didn’t talk to her today besides to tell her something funny that happened between my basketball coach and I involving her. I want her back but after everything that has happened I don’t know what to do it think. help please!!

    • Jake September 8, 2014, 12:24 pm

      Dude,dont worry shes uour if she still hangs out with you this much even after the relationship.then it clearly shows that she has still dealings for you

    • Joshua December 8, 2014, 1:31 am

      Ok dude you might like her for her but she is only interested in your body obviously.. I mean if she is all like ‘I don’t want a relationship with you’ but she is having sex with you almost every time you see her.. is she obviously using you for sex and for pleasure.. seriously just find some other girl and don’t talk to her for a long time and I mean a long time

  • Aidan Sweeney August 2, 2014, 3:44 pm

    Hey its been about 2 weeks since me and my girlfriend broke up and its been rough all I have been thinking about is how can I get her back. I’m in high school and me and my girlfriend are probably going to have a lot of classes together and I don’t know what to expect. When we broke up I asked her if it was something I did and she said no and that she does not know why she lost interest in me. I have been trying to work on my appearance and i read your article. I am in the no contact period right now. Like 3 days after she vroke with me she texted me and asked how i was doing and I was stupid and told her that it might take me a while to get over her but i ended the text by saying that this break up opens a lot of doors for me and that i was going to be pretty busy coming up. After I said that i read your article and thats when I started the no contact period…I was wondering what I should do next? because I really want her back… school starts later this month and I do not know what to do… I really need your help I need to know what to do next…thank you

  • Tyrell September 8, 2014, 3:28 pm

    Hi my names Tyrell. So I’ve been dating this girl, who I’ve wanted since the first time I’ve seen her, for about 9 months. Our relationship was great, we got along well, we’re happy together, ya we had a fight every now and then, but what relationship doesn’t? Also, I have a problem of getting jealous easily, but I’ve worked on it and I’m 10x better. Recently, I had to move an additional 3.5 hours away from her (we lived 1 hour away prior) to play a sport. We both agreed to make it work because we’ve had a distance relationship anyways. Now, only 1 week into me being gone, she says that “this is a lot harder than I thought it was going to be, we should take a break because I have to figure out what I want” but yet she still texts me every day and we talk on the phone lots, and we still say “I love you” and stuff like that. What does this mean? And I would really appreciate your help on how to convince her that we can still make this relationship work. My parents and family love her and they will be coming down to see me a lot and she can go with them, but this whole idea of a break makes me so sad. Please help me Kevin. (Btw, she still tells me she wants to come see me and watch me play my sport)

  • Alan October 2, 2014, 7:12 pm

    Hey Kevin I like all your advice on the article but I was thinking that some of it isn’t that related to my situation but maybe you can still help me som my ex we where together for like 6 months or so we each other during the summer I met her during school. I’d go to her house constantly to hang out with her till we started doing it. Then we liked each other even more and got together. But I lied to her so much about things that she stopped trusting me like she used to btw she let me move in with her. She also started talking to some guy she like and I was really jelo about this till I started over reacting and we started having constant arguements. Right now she cut me off and stopped talking to me cuzz she hates me. I as we’ll stopped talking to her to give her space but I write her a big letter apologizing and thanking her for the good times we had and mentioned another chance even bout her a teddy bear with and her fav candy to go with. She then wrote me a letter and left it in my room thanking me for the gift but saying it wasn’t going to change anything about me so I m still heart broken and it’s been awkward she also made me feel bad for some reason I don’t want to mention but then asked why I’m crying and u didn’t answer so she said ok ignore me then later that night she message me saying sorry for being stupid with you I’m sorry I ignored it for a bit till I opened it and answered her the next day but still I’ve been thinking on what’s going to happen will she give me another chance if I give her time? Should I still buy her little gifts? What can I do Kevin what should I do?? Please help me out her bro

  • Adam October 21, 2014, 10:41 pm

    Heyyy..can u help me out??.we’ve dated only about 2 week…n she broke up with me sayinggg…it was becuz other ppl around her convince her tooo..but I’m not reallt sure if tht is trueee..she won’t tell me anything but tht….I asked her for another chances but she said noo..soo I stop texting/talking to her for about a month…I only text..only if she text me first…..do you think if I give it time…I still might have a chance??

  • Halcoo October 25, 2014, 2:21 am

    Hi, I have very important question for you..

    I broke up with my girl friend about a month ago and I have read your article about 2 weeks ago. However, i really want to know if I have a chance at this point.

    My girlfriend and I were hanging out since last year and became very close friends this semester. Then she started to like me first. I knew that she liked me for about two weeks before we start dating because the way how she acted was just telling me that she wanted me. Actually, she even talked to her best friends about her feeling towards me. Moreover, she gave me many hints to ask her out in our conversation. So, when I was sure about my feeling towards her, I asked her out and she said yes. She even told me that she was really happy when I asked her out. But a WEEK after, she told me that she does not feel the same anymore.

    I was bumped out since I did not expect that my first love would end up this quickly. I dated some girls before her but that was because they asked me out. I had no feeling toward them but I dated them because I did not want to hurt their feelings. The one who I broke up with… she is the first one who I dated for liking her as a person..

    After we break up, she wanted to talk to me to tell me that she does not like me anymore. So I did not talk to her for two weeks. Then, I contacted her to talk and she agreed. We talked about our relationship and she wanted me to be her friend again and think about the relationship later. I thought things will be fine. But she seemed like avoiding me after all. Thus, I ask her to have another conversation and she also agreed again. At this time, my friend told me why she wanted to break up with me. The reason was that she thought that I was going far in the first week. But, this does not make any sense since I did not even kissed her or anything like that. I was waiting until the end of first week of our relationship to kiss her since I did not want her to feel pressure. However, when I was talking to her, I apologized her anyway, about the thing that I did which made her feel pressure. Then she smiled and held my hand and said let’s be friends again and think about the relationship later. So I thought everything was going all right for the second time.

    I gave her a ticket to the school dance to go there with me as a friend and she accepted it. But the night before the dance, she told me that she cannot come because she was going to hang to with her friend. So my friend asked my ex’s friend what she is going to do with my ex at that night and she told my friend that my ex told her that my ex got a free ticket to the dance.
    I was so mad and disappointed at her that I personally thought to myself to stop the feeling towards her but that did not work out.

    The other day, she said sorry… so I gave her another chance to meet up but it also did not work out well. Then again, she thought that I was mad at her and asked me how I feel about her. We had a conversation about our relationship then we decided to be friends again. This happened in the beginning of this week. But the problem now, is that she started avoiding me again.

    I has been a month since I broke up with my girlfriend. I tried my best to move on by hanging out with other girls and stuff… But every time, I cannot stop thinking about her… Now, she likes someone but the thing is that he is my close friend and he does not want to date her. He even helped me out with her. He asked her some questions why she wanted to break up with me and all… He knows that she likes him but he does not want her which makes me very jealous haha

    I wrote main parts of story of my relationship here…

    Do you think there is still a chance?

    What should I do at this point?

    I really need serious help.

  • Prateek October 27, 2014, 7:19 am

    Hey umm I need a little help here.You see my ex blocked me on everything, she blocked me on every type of social media and we dated for 15 months.Things were great until she went to the Philippines during summer holidays and we broke up a day before.She had fallen in love with someone else two days after we broke up,its been 3 and a half weeks after our breakup and she told her friend that she felt that she was a bitch for doing all that to me and she said that she was done with boys and relationships and she just wants to be around her friends and family and not think about us for now.And when we were together, I told her that I’m alright with the fact that she couldn’t go out with me coz I always loved how she loves her family and always puts her family first.I was just wondering what could I do to get her back?Should I do anything different compare to the suggested ideas on the article?

  • Prateek October 27, 2014, 7:32 am

    Ohh and she is alright with the fact of being friends and being close friends but she wants me to give her time but I waited a year to go out with her,I waited the whole summer for her to come back,but she just wants to be a teenager and not think about this right now and ofc I’m crazy enough to make her a surprise sweet 16 bday party which is on 10th July ,months from now but I wanted her to fall in love with me again.And I see her being lonely and sad since we are in the same homeroom so should I go up to her and try to cheer her up or something else?And I did buy her gifts coz she was away so I wanted to surprise her,so what should I do with them?

  • Prateek October 27, 2014, 7:33 am

    And this is our third time breaking up

  • Prateek October 27, 2014, 7:45 am

    And she told my best friend that I shouldn’t be so sad or act emo and she gets sad bout it,does that mean she secretly cares bout me and shouldn’t I do something to make her realise that she still does love me maybe deep inside she still does.And another information is that when she was in the Philippines during summer,she cried coz she really missed me.

  • William Reed November 12, 2014, 3:09 pm

    Please read and help!
    So me and my ex are in the 11th grade and we dated for a little over a year and loved each other like crazy. I broke with her cause I wasn’t thinking right. I started talking to a new girl but then slowly stopped cause I missed her, this was about a month after we broke up. Now she is talking (not dating but close) to another guy. This tore me up even more and I didn’t really talk to her for 4 days while they was talking and then the 5th day she posted on twitter all this stuff about she should be alone forever and blah blah. So I texted her you alright and we talked I bit I didn’t beg her to be back with me but I told her that I was pretty torn up and in sorry and all this. But the next day (6th day the day I’m writing this) she is still talking and seems happy with him. Should I still apply the 30 day no contact rule? Should I hangout with other girls? But if they stop talking in less than 30 days should I talk to her? Or of they still are should I talk to her? Please help I would it would be highly appreciated!

  • Brandon November 15, 2014, 3:24 am

    Hey, I just want help, please. I just came across this article, and I want to know how to get this girl to like me, I couldn’t find any other sites to ask this question. I’ve tried everything in the book, and it just won’t work. She’s not going out with anyone. I love her so badly, but I just don’t know what to say. I REALLY don’t want to say anything weird.

  • Martin November 16, 2014, 2:19 am

    So my ex said she had to move on because I was hurting her to much & I wasn’t there for her but she said we can be bestfriends & I said can we see in the future & she said idk should I move on or no & she already has a boyfriend & I still Want to be with her she said she doesn’t want to go but she has to what do I do I want to be with her

  • Jose November 16, 2014, 5:08 am

    Hey my girlfriend and I broke up. Her dad cheated on her mom for two years and they found out this summer. She’s been depressed and I understand. So first broke up with me. After two days she came back. Now about a week ago she broke up with me again saying that she needed to be alone. That same night she kept on kissing me and hugging me and holding hands and saying she would come back. Yesterday I texted her to see how she was doing ( out of mind, out of sight). And we had a pretty good conversation. Then after a couple of hours she said to forget about her coming back and to live my life. I didnt understand and I insisted on her telling me. So she told me that she loved me and I made her happy but that she didn’t feel a click. I think she’s using it as an excuse. Idk what to do. Idk if this one month things applies to this. I miss her like crazy and her mom told me she’d come around. Idk what to do. I want her and need her back. Please help.

  • Anthony November 26, 2014, 3:51 pm

    Hey so me and my girlfriend where togther for about almost 3 months I truly do love her. And we broke up 2 days ago. What happen was is that she said she was going to move to Georgia with some famity and then she told me that the truth is she likes another guy and that she is not moving. Well She tried contacting me last night through txt saying she needed to explain something. I just ignored her txt. Today is day 2 of no contact I deleted her off of everything of course I wrote her number down and saved it away but her pictures and everything I deleted. I do miss her and I think what if she dose move during the no contact? and what if she dose have a new man? What if this no contact backfires on me and she wanted to explain things and I just blew her off???

  • Lucas November 26, 2014, 7:44 pm

    My ex broke up with me cause I change my personality when I’m around my guy friends and she dosnt like tht about me. I read every, but I’ve been oit of this relationship for almost a year now. Wat should I do?

  • Joshua December 7, 2014, 11:54 pm

    Hey.. My ex broke up with me about a month ago and she said the reason was because she felt she wasn’t ready and scared of me and I understood because she was young and I was about a year older than her with a lot more experience (she did say that if i could wait maybe she would be back around).. so I started hanging out with this other girl and I noticed that she wanted to hang out with me more and more so I thought ‘yay this is working’ but then the next day when I walked by her during lunch I saw her flirting with another guy and it tore me apart.. I tried to talk to her but she said ‘well you moved on so I will too’ she thought that I was trying to date the new girl I met.. and when I tried to explain that I still loved her and wanted to be with her she just thought I was coming off as desperate.. What do I do?!?

  • samuel December 8, 2014, 7:33 am

    Hey,

    I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years and 9 months a week ago. A month before the break up I asked her if she wanted a break for a month since I see she needed it. Right after she agreed she has decided to break up with me. I’ve started no contact since 3 days ago. I’m one class with her and she seems happy all the time, although I notice a slight change. And since I’m one class of 8, it’s very difficult to stay out of contact. Sometimes she still talk to me, and she’s the one who initiates. When we broke up she told me that she didn’t love me anymore. She did say that she’s couldn’t resume the relationship, at least not then. I know the reason of my break up, no cheating involved. Do you think I still have a chance? And any advice on no contact, since it’s really difficult.

    Thanks

  • Rodrigo December 9, 2014, 2:55 am

    so i need help
    ok so well my ex broke up with me a couple of years back and we haven’t talked for a while. now were in high school and she has been going out with this other guy for almost 2 years. but she started to talk to me after that time period and shes still with the guy. she tells me to walk her to class and stuff and she talks to me about how rude and mean and disrespectfull her boyfriend is to her. then she told me that she would go back out with me, but she has a boyfriend. i dont want to be the reason why they break up but then again i really like her and i dont know what to do

  • Tyson Simmons December 16, 2014, 3:28 am

    Hello

    Before I start, I am a senior in high school who is 18 and my ex girlfriend is 18 as well, now I know high school couples don’t last long and I should move on and I understand that but I honestly feel this break up was miss communication and I think it was something special there.

    We dated for 7 months and she broke up with me 3 days ago which sucked because it was a text message (though i asked her with text message if she was trying to break up with me) saying I’m a great guy and she loves me so much but she doesn’t see a future with me, doesn’t feel happy as she used to be, can’t go to the same college I want to go to and says it doesn’t feel right because she didn’t tell her parents we were dating we should just became friends and move on to different people.

    By reaction when we broke up, I broke the first rule and starting begging her to change her mind and telling her how bad i feel or how it is without her telling her i can change my faults for off and on for like that day and the day after next to give her time to think. But begging her to give me another chance just to have her replying saying she still loves me and always have but she can’t give me more another chances or any redos (note we never broke up before and idk what she means by anymore chances instead of another).
    I spent a couple days pleading with her to change her mind which she continued to reply with hearts until she just stopped texting me yesterday when i tried to accept her offer of becoming friends.

    When we are close at lunch, she seems to look like everything is cool, her friends just stare at me and look away and she just doesn’t talk or look at me at all yesterday. I know she still cares for me and thats why I’m letting go of my pride to ask you for advice no matter how embarrassing or how naive I look. I’m willing to give this no contact rule a chance but if my situation is too bad please tell me before i ruin things even more.
    If this wasn’t enough information to give me some specific advice fitting my situation please ask for more and I’ll will tell you because I’m actually serious about winning her back not revenge or pay back in anyway. But if its just to move on just tell me so I don’t waste anymore time trying to win her back.

    P.S. Forgive my bad grammar and spelling in this message with me still being emotional and not focused.

  • Owen January 17, 2015, 12:09 am

    Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago and were never together for more than a week but the time I had with her in that week was still great. Since then she has been out with My Best Friend twice and now likes someone else. He are still good friends even though she apparently hates me. Is it to late to start following these guides or is there no point now.

  • Gregory January 28, 2015, 10:35 am

    I need help desperately, My girlfriend broke up with me last week I was devastated. I really want her back I have tried the no contact but in the end I screwed it up, I told her that I still had feelings for her and I agreed on being friends. But I just want her back so much. Is there any hope for me? And what can I do now to earn her back? Please help thanks

  • Anthony Rivera January 30, 2015, 6:48 am

    my girlfriend broke up with me because she found out that i called this other girl “hot” & i know thats messed up from my part & its been two weeks since we broke up and i haven’t even talked to her, im thinking of apologizing for what i did, but i dont know exactly what to say. and also the day we broke up, i asked her for a chance and she said that she doesnt want to be hurt again, but i still feel like i need to talk to her again in private

  • Evan February 20, 2015, 9:25 pm

    Hey,
    My girlfriend and I just broke up. This isn’t the first or second or ether 3 time. We broke up for the fourth time and she just said we are to much different. We dated for 3 1/2 months. Is there still a chance and if so, what do I have to do to get her back.

  • Jelani February 25, 2016, 11:34 pm

    Hey
    My girl broke up with me and I’ve been having a head time since then. I try to talk to her and things like that but she’s gets annoyed when I do things like that. We haven’t been together for like two weeks I think and I still want her back. My friend told me to wait junior year to see what happens an I’m not sure if that would work, I asked could we be friends and told me no so that make me feel even more uneasy. I have a lot belief that she’s going to take me back but she keeps telling me that I can’t have anymore chances with her so that was on my mind a lot. During my relationship I know that I fucked up a lot with her and I had so many regrets, it drove me mad. I still I want her back either way but she doesn’t believe me that I changed at all, I understood that I messed up a lot and I truly hated it. But the main reason she broke up with me was because we had a lot of arguments and I didn’t like them either but when we did she told me that it made her unhappy and that made me feel worse. So do think there’s a chance that I can get back with my ex?

  • Josh March 1, 2016, 3:44 am

    Me and my girlfriend were together for almost a year. 11 months and she broke up with me right around the time of her birthday in January and our 1 year would’ve been on 2/16/16. We were an amazing couple. I did everything for her. Brought her to school. Picked her up from practice and we would do everything together. I even stuck by her side when she went away for a full 3 months. The whole summer. Never once in our relationship did I once talk to another girl because I always felt that if I did they would want to make a move on me or something and I never wanted to hurt her and I promised myself I never would because I saw the way my mom was hurt by her ex and she was hurt for a long time. But back to the relationship, It’s my senior year and it was going amazing. I play football and she was there for me every game. We went 14-1 and the last game really hurt but she was there for me and I love her so much for that. But after football season things got a little funky. She started hanging with a girl from her softball team and they would go to places like the boys baseball tryouts. Like in the back of my mind I knew that was a little fishy but that didn’t change my love for her. Over the winter break she got grounded the whole 2 weeks and I couldn’t see her at all but I would still go there some nights because she missed me so much and just wanted a hug and me being the good boyfriend I was there for her. Something went on when her sisters older boyfriend when he went to her house and was trying to touch her. I was about 2 hours away because I was at my friends house and it was 3 am she was calling me so I got in the car and went there and picked her up. It was traumatizing for her and I was there for her literally every day because I loved her so much and would be there for forever. A couple weeks went by and I started to notice that’s he would talk to this kid from my team. He didn’t start but he was in her grade and I guess they were friends. I was always protective of her from other guys because it was my natural instinct. Like I wouldn’t beat them up or anything lol but like we are together and you don’t really talk to others guys like that. One day after a perfect day of hanging with her she didn’t get out of the car and she said we needed to talk. She said that when I go away to college everything is going to change and I might find someone better than her and for me I obviously would never leave her. I loved her since the first day she came to my school from up north. But she said that this kid that I was talking about earlier he would be there for her like a big brother and protect her. The first thought that came to my mind was “WTF”. I didn’t say that to her but I talked to her hugged her and comforted her as she went on about wanting to take away the title of boyfriend girlfriend and that’s when I kinda knew that she was talking talking to him. When I got home she said that we should take a break so she can find herself and her happiness. The next day at school she was hugging the kid. I didn’t know but I guess she was telling people we broke up and she never told me. My friend talked to her and she said that she had feelings for the kid. This definitely was like a hot knife going right into my heart. I didn’t eat. I wouldn’t come to school sometimes because I couldn’t see the girl I was in love with for almost a year just fuck with another guy. I did the no contact for a good week and it worked. I felt better and I wasn’t hurting as bad but then one day she caught me in the hallway and said that she misses me and still loves me and thinks that everything is gonna go back to normal in about a week. Me being the stupid love struck boy I gave in. We texted and talked. I gave her a ride home one day cause she said she got into a little argument so I was just being civil and when I got to her house she didn’t want to get out of my car. She layer across my lap and sat there and was just talking about how she’s sorry and is selfish for doing it so I tried to change the subject by getting out of the car and bringing her to her door. She continued to hug me and kiss my cheeks and pinching my butt because that was always her thing lol. But I gave In I forgave her and I hugged her back. Hard long hugs with thousands of emotions going through both of our heads. I literally tried to leave 8 times and every time I would walk away from the doorstep and get to my car she would come up behind me and jump on my back and hug me so I hugged her back because it just felt right. But as a couple days went by she said that she was going to hang out with him and if it went bad or whatever she would cut him off and it didn’t… She told me she was sorry and she couldn’t hurt me anymore. I said I forgave her but she couldn’t handle the pain of seeing me hurt I guess. So now I’m back to where I was in the beginning kind of. Reading articles like these make me feel so much better. She told me she’s moving back up north because she wants to go back home. Her dad is sick in the hospital and I was there for her even when she broke up with me because I still loved her and cared for her. I guess it’s just confusing because she would still tell me she loves me and cares about me but she talks to this guy and hangs out with him and she says they’re only friends. The reason she said she broke up with me was because I was being cold to her after football season because of the loss and I sure as he’ll wasn’t. But I really don’t know how to handle this situation anymore but I did start no contact again but I don’t know I love her but she’s still going to be hugging this boy In school and everything and it just hurts to see and feel that it does. I’d rather be stabbed in the leg than have my heart messed with. I know that this is crazy long and you might not even read it but please do because I think it’s better to hear from people that have actually gone through something like this rater than friends wanting me to beat him up for messing with the girl I love lol but I’m not gonna do that. Btw this guy is so unattractive like he’s 6’2 250 and he has no chin and he’s like super fat and she was making fun of him the day I went to her house but I’m totally opposite. I’m a muscular guy with a big chest and arms but I never really had a six pack but it basically is one but that just isn’t her and I don’t get it but it’s her decision I guess and life has to go on

    Thank you for reading this huge message

  • Banks March 16, 2016, 6:43 pm

    I don’t no what to do , seens she told me that she wanted to breakup I hav not been in skool .so when I go to skool what should I do (i.e behavior,should I talk to her and tell her that what’s not going in this relationship and if she can give it a try again

  • Colin June 18, 2016, 9:56 pm

    Hey Kevin,
    So I was with my gf for almost two months and everything was awesome. We went on one date a week ago were we kissed for the first time and I started to really get the feeling were I thought we were something special. However, one week later, she broke up with me, and she said that she didn’t feel the same enthusiasm and attraction towards me as she did before, and that she wanted to like me and she wished she could control her feelings but she couldn’t. I texted her a bit when this breakup happened, but I didn’t do it enough to seem desperate or anything. This has also happened one week before summer vacation, and I plan on doing no contact until about August. Do you think I still have a chance with her?

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