It’s one thing when your girlfriend dumps you and you feel like you want her back. It’s an entirely different story when you dump her and you realize you have made the biggest mistake of your life. This article is meant specifically for guys who regret breaking up with their girlfriends and want her back.
The Reason You Broke Up
OK, you just realized that breaking up with her was a big mistake. You want her back in y our life but it seems that she has moved on and there is no way she will agree to give you another chance. Well, the good news is you have a chance (a pretty good one at that) to get your ex girlfriend back even if you broke up with her; but before we continue, there is something that you should think about.
What was the reason you broke up in the first place? If she is so great, and she is so amazing, why did you decide to end the relationship? Were you not happy with her? What guarantee you have that you will not feel the same again and break up with her again?
If there is even the slightest possibility that once you get her back, you will have the same problem as before, then you are better off trying to move on. More importantly, if this girl is not right for you, you should leave her alone. She will be much happier in her life if she moves on and finds someone who is right for her. What is the point of seducing her, getting her back in your life, making her fall in love with you and then again breaking her heart?
Not only that, is it worth it putting yourself through everything again? The fact is you had this girl once in your life and you let her go. If you had been truly happy with her and you knew she was the perfect girl for you, you wouldn’t have broken up. Why bother trying to get her back only to realize that she is not the perfect girl for you.
Could it be Just Panic?
Here is a very common scenario.
You break up with your girlfriend (for very legitimate reasons). She begs you not to do it. She pleads and tells you that she loves you. You say you don’t want to be with her and it’s best that you both move on. She continues calling you and texting you. You try to ignore her but you still talk to her and you know that she will be with you if you just say the word.
Then one day, she stops calling. She doesn’t text as much anymore. When you call her, you don’t hear the desperation in her voice anymore. You can feel that she is trying to move on. Then suddenly, she doesn’t pick up your calls either. In fact, she tells you that she has decided to move on and she thinks that breakup was the right thing to do.
Your mind starts to panic. By now, you can’t remember the reason you decided to breakup with her in the first place. Even if you do remember, you convince yourself that it’s not a big deal and you can fix it. You can’t remember any of her bad qualities. The only thing you can think about is how much wonderful, amazing and beautiful she was. You only concentrate on her good qualities. You are panicking. You are realizing that you are going to lose her forever. You start thinking that breaking up was a mistake. You want to get her back before she moves on.
This scenario is actually your mind panicking. Earlier, even though you broke up with her, you never really lost her. You never really let her go. She was still holding on to you and she was still not over you. And knowing she wasn’t over you made you feel comfortable. Even though you broke up with her, you still had her. But now, that she is slipping away from your grip, you are coming to the horrible realization that she is moving on. This made your brain panic and you started going through the phases of grief that everyone goes through after a breakup.
If the above situations rings true with you, then I want you to know that this feeling you have right now is not going to last. It’s just a phase of grief and it will pass. However, if you decide to reconcile during this phase, you will soon realize that it was a mistake and again break up. So, instead of rushing into things, just wait till this feeling of panic subsides and you can see things more clearly.
The Best Way To Get Her Back If You Broke With Her
Now, once you’ve decided that you want to get her back because you sincerely believe that both of you can have a long and happy relationship together, then you should go ahead and try to reconcile.
If you are reading this article, then I suppose you’ve already tried talking to her and she is not interested in getting back together. This DOES NOT MEAN that she has moved on. However, it does mean that she is in the process of moving on and she will not get back with you unless she finds a good enough reason to do so.
The best thing to do right now will be to start the no contact rule. Don’t contact her for a few days. Basically, you want to follow everything mentioned in this article. Stay away from her for a while; work on yourself; and then start the re-attraction process.
Getting back together if you broke up with her is no different than the other way around. The only thing you need to think about is whether or not you want her back for the right reason.