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7 Ways to Boost Your Ego after a Breakup

low self esteemIf you have just been dumped it’s quite possible that your ego as taken a big hit. You feel rejected, and you feel alone. But in reality, rejection is just a myth. No-one can reject you if you don’t allow them. If the actions of your ex can make you feel rejected, then you probably need a little ego boost.

First of all, remember rejection is not real. Someone left you and you both decided to live separately. But rejection is just in your head. It’s just your way of seeing things. For example, if you really believe yourself to be smart and someone came along and called you “Stupid”, you will not be affected by that. You will not feel rejected by that person. In fact, you will just brush it off as his perspective and wouldn’t be bothered by it at all. On the other hand, if you don’t have confidence about your body and someone came along and called you “ugly” it’s going to affect you a lot. You are going to think about what that person said. You won’t be able to just brush it off as his perspective. Even though this case is the same as the one before (where someone called you stupid). Why the difference?love yourself

When you feel rejected by someone, you are just letting someone else’s perspective define you. That is not healthy at all. Especially during and after a breakup, your ex might say a lot of mean things to hurt you. Sometimes they say mean things to justify their leaving you. Sometimes they say mean things as a defense mechanism. And maybe sometimes they actually mean it.

But whatever the case, it’s their perspective. I know it’s hard to just ignore a person’s perspective that you have been in a relationship with for a long time. But understand that if you let his/her perspective affect your self-esteem, you are setting yourself up for a miserable life ahead.

A good way to counter this negative self-esteem attack is to do something to boost your ego. It might just be a temporary ego boost, but it will help you in the recovery from breakup.

1. Go for a new adventure. Something you’ve never done before. Like kayaking. Or sky diving. Or snow-boarding.

2. Try speed dating. Not only it will be a new experience, it will also help you realize there are a lot of people out there looking for someone exactly like you.

3. Go traveling. Pack your bags and go to a place you always wanted to visit. It gives you an ego boost and helps you raise your overall self-esteem.

4. Do some volunteer work. Helping other people will definitely make you feel better about yourself.

5. Spend some time with animals. Get a new pet. And if you can’t make a commitment, you can volunteer to take care of your neighbors pet or volunteer at an animal shelter.

6. Go to the gym. Start working out. Take a Zumba class or Yoga or Pilates. Get in shape and start loving your body. When you catch others admiring your body, you cannot stop yourself from feeling better.

7. Change your look. Get a new hair style. Change your hair color. Get a new wardrobe. Do something new to yourself. It will give you a sense of novelty, which goes along with the new life that you are about to begin.

 

7 Things to do for Yourself while Going Through a Bad Breakup

It’s OK to feel miserable after a breakup. It’s OK to let emotions take over you once in a while. It’s OK to want to just curl up in bed and cry. Everything you feel during the breakup is OK. But, while your emotions are draining everything from your mind and body, you have to balance it out with some nourishment and relaxation.

Here are 7 things that you can do while going through a breakup.

1. Go to a spa

Pamper yourself. You deserve it.

Pamper yourself. You deserve it.

What better place to relax than a spa? Get a manicure, a pedicure, or a facial. Get a massage while you are at it. Let them take care of your body. It’s hard to feel bad about yourself when you are in a place where everyone is focused on helping you relax. [click to continue…]

Getting Over a Short Term Relationship with High Expectations

Sometimes, a short term relationship is much harder to get over than expected. In many cases, people are not over a relationship even one year after a relationship that only lasted 6 months. It does seem strange, but it’s completely normal. The truth is, the length of the relationship does not matter as much as how you choose to handle the breakup and work through the grief.

The biggest reason that it takes so long to move on after such a relationship is expectations. When you meet someone after long time who completely swipes you off your feet, it’s hard to not build up expectations in your mind. [click to continue…]

How to Stop Obsessive Thoughts about Your Ex

One of the frustrating challenges after a breakup is trying to stop obsessive thoughts about your ex. Unfortunately, there isn’t a switch in your mind which you can turn off. If there was, no one in this world would be suffering from mental illness.

Obsessive thoughts about your ex are just like any other obsessive thoughts. If you try to suppress them, it will only be helpful for a few minutes. If you try to suppress it for very long, it’s going to build up a lot of negative energy inside and it will come back with great vengeance and furious anger ready to take over your mind. [click to continue…]