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5 Reasons You Should Not Get Back With Your Ex

Thinking of getting back together?

Think about it for a second?

Is it a really a good idea?

Try to think of some reasons that you shouldn’t? Can’t think of anything? How about these?

1. You can find someone better.

someone betterYou can find someone much better than your ex. Your ex and you broke up, without blaming anyone, the simple fact is that you two were not compatible. Instead of trying to get back with someone you are not compatible with; why not find someone who you are compatible with? If you really think your ex is the one, then you are dead wrong. If they were “the one” they should’ve also felt the same way. And if they would’ve felt the same way, then you two would’ve worked things out. But you didn’t work things out and they don’t think you are the one. And that just means that your ex was not the one.

2. You are emotional


Look at yourself. Do you really think you are in a position to make a life altering decision?

It’s a known fact that bargaining is one of the stages of grief. Trying to convince your ex to get back might just be an emotional state where your mind is trying to convince you that they might be the one you. In reality, your mind can’t cope up with the loss and is coming up with all the stupid reasons to convince you that you two get back together. If you are in a stage where you think getting back together is better than being alone, then you can rest assured this is the bargaining stage of grief. Once you have moved on, you will be glad you stuck to being separated.

3. You are alone

alone and sad

If being alone makes you sad. You should not get back together with your ex.

Do you really think you are better off being in a miserable relationship than being alone? If you answered yes, you are in need of some serious counseling. But if you answered no, then you are probably just not looking at your past relationship with the right perspective. You might try to convince yourself that your relationship wasn’t that bad. But that’s just selective thinking. After breaking up, it’s quite common to block out the negative experiences and just concentrate on the positive experiences you had with your ex (or vice versa). If you are in this stage, you might be trying to convince yourself that the relationship was better than being along. But in reality, it’s totally not. It might be better than being in pain and hurt that you might feel after the breakup. But that pain and hurt does not last long. It goes away and when it does, you will find that being alone is a lot better than being in a bad relationship.

4. You are scared to go out there


It’s a scary world out there. But it’s not as bad as you make it out in your mind.

If you think that there is no one out there for you, then you are dead wrong. Whatever crappy reasons you are giving yourself to justify this asinine notion, is just plain wrong. No matter your age, your weight, your height, your financial status, your mental health, your bad habits, your insecurities, your skeletons in the closet, your not so desirable traits and everything else, you can and will find someone who is perfect for you. Trust me, this world is more connected than ever, and it’s full of all kinds of people. You can never comprehend this fact unless you go out there and try to meet new people. And you can never go out and try to meet new people if you keep holding on to the notion of getting back together with your ex.

5. You broke up

Seriously, isn’t that reason enough for you? If you are trying to get back together, you are not trying to accept the breakup. There is a possibility if you try all the tricks and gimmicks out there and get back together. But in the end, you will end up with the same person with the same relationship. And that same relationship will end in the same breakup again. Do you really want that? Wouldn’t it be better to just accept the breakup? Just accept that you two are not compatible with each other? Everyone goes through the pain after the breakup. Instead of trying to run away from the pain, or deny it; just accept the facts and try to get over the breakup. Learn from the failed relationship and try to build a better one next time.

If even after all this, you are absolutely sure you want to get back together. Then go ahead and do so.

How to get your ex girlfriend back.

Why You Must Unfriend Your Ex from Facebook

This is one of the biggest dilemmas after a breakup. Should you unfriend your ex on facebook? The answer is quite simply yes.

If you don’t unfriend your ex from facebook, you are going to end up looking at their profile sooner or later. Their status messages are going to show up on your news feed. And you will be looking at all the pictures they upload. All these things will affect your emotions and your thoughts.

In short, if you don’t unfriend your ex from facebook, your ex still has some control over you. (Note: if you want to get your ex back, you might want to reconsider. If that’s the case. Make sure you read the article on how to get your ex girlfriend back.) [continue reading…]

Getting Over a Short Term Relationship with High Expectations

Sometimes, a short term relationship is much harder to get over than expected. In many cases, people are not over a relationship even one year after a relationship that only lasted 6 months. It does seem strange, but it’s completely normal. The truth is, the length of the relationship does not matter as much as how you choose to handle the breakup and work through the grief.

The biggest reason that it takes so long to move on after such a relationship is expectations. When you meet someone after long time who completely swipes you off your feet, it’s hard to not build up expectations in your mind. [continue reading…]

5 Tips To Help You Stay On the No Contact Rule

After you’ve made your decision to not contact your ex, you need to stay true to the decision. Unfortunately, everyone has their weak moments and it’s common to give in during them. Here are 5 tips that will help you stay away from your ex and in your sanity.

1. Get Busy

Do something that will keep you busy. It’s easier to not contact your ex when you are busy doing something else. The urge to contact your ex is not going to last long. When the emotions have faded away, ask yourself, do you still want to contact your ex? If you still have the urge, that means you are still emotional. Move on to the next step. [continue reading…]

How to Get Closure after a Breakup?

When you are asking for closure, what exactly are you expecting? Is it something like this?

I need to know if my ex still loves me. I think if I just know his feelings about me, I will get closure.

My ex was with me for 3 years. She said that she loved me and will always be with me. I have to know what happened that she went from “I Love You” to “I want a divorce”. I asked her this question but it just led to an argument. I need an answer to get closure.

I just want to tell my ex how I feel right now.

I think my ex owes me an explanation

Do you think answering these questions will lead you to closure? [continue reading…]