To be honest, if you cheated, then getting your ex girlfriend back is completely dependent on one thing and one thing only. We will talk about that later in this article, but first let’s talk about a few important things.
Why You Cheated?
Were you unhappy in the relationship with your ex? Was it just a one-time mistake? Or you had been sneaking behind her back for a long time and you got caught?
You have to be completely honest with yourself about why you cheated. In my experience, there could be 3 reasons for cheating.
1. It was one time mistake.
You got drunk, you got horny and you made a mistake. You realized you made a mistake and you either confessed or she found out herself. Regardless, she does not want to forgive you and you regret making the mistake.
If that’s the case, then you still have a pretty good chance of getting her back. Since it was just a one-time mistake, you just have to follow the instructions in this guide and hopefully she will come back to you. Of course, there is still a chance that she won’t take you back and you have to accept that.
2. You are a serial cheater.
You two had a perfectly good relationship but still you decided to cheat on her. In fact, you have been cheating on her for a long time and she found out recently. If that’s the case, then you really need some soul searching before getting back together. Maybe you are the type of person who needs to sleep with a lot of women to be happy. Maybe you have some issues. Wouldn’t it be better to solve your issues and understand yourself before jumping into a relationship? I am not asking you to change. Far from it. I am asking you to accept yourself for who you are. Perhaps, monogamy is not for you.
Listen, you can probably follow this guide and get her back, but that does not mean you will be in a happy relationship with her. You might end up hurting her again. If you really love her, it’s better to let her go, unless you are absolutely sure you will not cheat on her again.
3. You were unhappy in the relationship and wanted something more
Then there is the type of cheating where you were just unhappy with her and you decided instead of working on the relationship problems (or breaking up with her), you will just go and do the deed with the hot girl from the bar.
Listen, I understand that relationships and monogamy is hard and the novelty of an affair is tempting. But if you chose to have an affair instead of working on your problems, then perhaps it’s for the best that the relationship ended.
Of course, you still have a chance of getting your ex girlfriend back, but remember that you will have to work a lot rebuild the trust in your relationship (along with the problems in the relationship that were making you unhappy).Do you think your relationship with her will be strong enough to handle the stress that comes after an affair?
How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back After You Cheated On Her
Now, I said in the starting of this article that getting back together after cheating depends on one thing and one thing only. And that one thing is her level of investment in the relationship.
Most girls will end a relationship instantly when they find out the guy cheated. However, if they are heavily invested in the relationship (time, expectations, kids) they will consider giving you another chance PROVIDED they see a hope that they can trust you again.
She needs to see a glimmer of hope that you will never betray her again and she can trust you again. If so, then she will probably give you another chance.
How can you make her see that there is hope and there is still a solid chance of the relationship working?
First of all, it doesn’t happen right away. You have to give her enough time and space to work her emotions. And you have to work on yourself as well. Basically, you follow Step 2 and Step 3 of this guide diligently. You will have to follow no contact for a while. However, since you cheated, you should always answer her calls when and if she calls. When you answer her calls, you should treat her as an acquaintance you are in good terms with. Don’t get too personal and don’t talk about your feelings. Be amicable and respectful, but don’t make any of the mistakes listed in Step 1 of the article.
After Getting Back Together
What is the point of getting back together with her if you two constantly keep fighting because she doesn’t trust you anymore? If you want to get back together, then you better be prepared to face the aftermath of reconciliation. You will have to work really hard to rebuild the trust in your relationship again.
Since you are the one who cheated, you will have to give up your privacy for a while. You will have to be OK with her checking up on you and reading your private messages. I know this behavior is usually considered needy but this is a special case. You cheated on her and she is giving you another chance. If you want her to trust you again, you will have to be OK with it till the time she can trust you again.